I live in the middle of nowhere. The city I live in is not large... more like I know someone who knows someone. But we all know one another that way. It's actually kind of nice. Unless you want to date and you're me.
So, here's my dilemma. I require the following of a potential partner.
- Female interested in Females (I never get passed this step)
- Really smart, mature female interested in females.
- She can appreciate my brand of crazy while being really smart, mature, female and interested in females.
It goes on but you see how narrow my field is getting.
So, Angela in all her therapy brilliance, again suggested the all mighty, all powerful Internet. We've been down this road before and it led to a really unpleasant place. My friends get a good chuckle out of it, those who know... not many of them know... but the experience only made me leery. Making matters worse, sites that would keep the crazy people (who admittedly also need love, just not from me) at bay cost money. Still don't have a job. And to further complicate this issue, I've tried more reputable sites (as part of the initial foray) and my nearest "matches" were about four hours away by car. Which I also don't have. A car I mean.
But then Angela, once again using her therapy/street smarts proclaimed that I'm an adult (boo!) that I can take a bus, that computers have video cameras and that part of me is being seriously neglected and doesn't have to be. On top of which, I think she was hinting that dating this way would be a good way for me to get to know someone and allow her to cross some of my many boundaries without the pressures and expectations that being with a physically present person entails. Because honestly, if we were to date in a conventional way, she'd be running up against a wall. Or running into it. Depends how fast she's going. Either way, she's not getting through the wall. So, response to these valid, rational arguments: Well shit.
It's been a few days and now the idea has firmly settled in my brain. Stupid brain. I see the pros. They seem to outnumber the cons. For instance, I haven't been on a date in three years. I see a definite pro there. Am I just being stubborn? Do I? Don't I? I would appreciate opinions and insights on this one.
Can what the commercials say really be true?! (Okay, that was said with dripping sarcasm.) Incidentally, if you happen to be gay, eHarmony has a completely different site called Compatible Partners. It doesn't sound nearly as cool. Maybe I should try joining Christian Singles to see what happens. I am Christian and I am single.
I'll let you know how that goes.